Why YOU MUST Have Meaningful Connections in Your Life

We’ve been reviewing the life of Samson for a few weeks, and I wonder at this point if you think Samson is a hero or a fool? Scripture leads us to believe that Samson should have led a very blessed and promising life, a heroic life – a meaningful life. But we know at this point, despite God’s power being upon Samson, his life did not end well. This reality leads me to conclude that “foolish” is probably the correct category for Samson.

From birth to death, Samson never developed a meaningful relationship with God. Because of this truth, he lacks meaningful relationships in every other aspect of his life. Over and over again, as we flip through the pages of his story, we are led to repetitively ask, “What if?” Unfortunately, today, we see the same “What ifs?” in our society.

Have you noticed how susceptible talent is to tragedy? Google these three words, “talent and tragedy,” and see what fills the screen. My browser received, as top examples, Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston.

Michael Jackson was the King of Pop, earning 26 AMAs, 40 Billboard Music Awards, and 13 Grammys. He was incredibly talented. But he overdosed on Fentanyl at the age of 50 (1). In comparison, according to the Guinness Book of World Records, Whitney Houston was the most-awarded female artist of all time. She had an incredible list of awards, including two Emmy Awards, 6 Grammy Awards, 16 Billboard Music Awards, and 22 American Music Awards – eventually achieving a total of more than 415 career awards. Yet tragedy still trumped talent. At 48 years of age, she was found, the victim of a cocaine overdose, deceased in a bathtub (2).

Sadly, the list of “what if’s?” in modern society goes on and on, with incredibly talented people being overcome by tragedy.

What if these extraordinarily talented celebrities had the meaningful connections in their lives that stopped these tragic outcomes?

Too often in our world, inspiration gets mistaken for invincibility, wit is incorrectly perceived as wisdom, and charisma is confused with character. The result is that meaningful connections are avoided – or never formed – and tragedy then steals the life of talent.

It happened in Samson’s life. He is unbelievably talented in the realm of strength and warfare. But his life is full of tragedies, and it ended tragically.

WHAT IF #1

What if Samson had leaned into the relationship he had with his parents by taking their counsel and walking out life in faith as they did?

Samson’s parents attempted to create an environment where Samson could enjoy a meaningful connection with God by following the Nazirite law. This law called them to a higher degree of holiness, as Samson was meant to be set apart from birth. Under the covenant, he and his family avoided alcohol, all things dead, and cutting their hair. Samson kept his hair long and did not shave his beard. God used this outer symbolism to show that Samson was His, identifying him as an Israelite, especially since Philistines kept themselves hairless and beardless at all times. God wanted Samson to look different and be different from the world (3)!

Instead, we see that Samson kept becoming less like God’s plan and more like the world’s plot. He continuously walked in disobedience to God’s will. He separated from his parents and broke the Nazarite vow repetitively. Making matters worse, he was not forthcoming with his parents about his disobedience. It becomes easy to discern that his life came undone at the seams because he lacked meaningful relationships with God and others.

WHAT IF #2:

What if Samson had established a meaningful relationship with God and others?

It is interesting to evaluate that college students wrestle with the same struggle as Samson. Research now reveals that it is common for college students to walk away from their faith either temporarily or permanently once they are on their own. Why does this happen? Perhaps, because they are no longer under the influence of their parent’s faith or invest their time into relationships that will keep them rooted and grounded in their faith.

Maybe you can relate to that type of college experience. Or, perhaps you can relate to Samson’s own experience. Samson’s parents had deeply held beliefs surrounding God, but Samson did not. He did not have a deep knowledge of God, so he was easily led astray by pride and lust. But, this does not have to be your story!

We can all drift away from God for one reason or another. Our talents can deceive us into tragedy. We, too, can mistake inspiration for invincibility, wit for wisdom, and charisma for character. But, unfortunately, these are not just the mistakes of the famous or Biblical characters like Samson.

But here’s the good news, God wants to do something very awesome in your life! He wants to develop and/or restore the meaningful relationship between you and Him because He is a very awesome God! And to take it one step further, God wants you to have meaningful connections and relationships in your life. People you can depend on, lean on, and glean wisdom from in the times of tragedy in your life. You are not meant to walk this life alone. You were designed for a meaningful relationship with our Father, and others around you.

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(1) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Jackson

(2) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whitney_Houston

(3) Niditch, Judges, 145.

The Number One Way to Live a Life Void of Meaning

Dr. Larry Petton tells the story, “A well-known author once told this story of an account he had with seagulls: “Several years ago our family visited Niagara Falls. It was spring, and ice was rushing down the river. As I viewed the large blocks of ice flowing toward the falls, I could see that there were dead fish embedded in the ice. Gulls by the score were riding down the river, feeding on the fish. As they came to the brink of the falls, their wings would go out, and they would escape from the falls. “I watched one gull which seemed to delay and wondered when it would leave. It was engrossed in the fish, and when it finally came to the brink of the falls, out went its powerful wings. The bird flapped and flapped and even lifted the ice out of the water, and I thought it would escape. But it had delayed too long so that its claws had frozen into the ice. The weight of the ice was too great, and the gull plunged into the abyss.”

How sad that even though the bird had plenty of time to fly away, it paid the ultimate price because it delayed. Now think of this story in terms of the Christian life. When we become overly enthralled with the things of this world, we lose sight of what lies ahead, and we can be brought down as we “fish” for the things of lesser meaning than our overall well-being.

That story and scenario are a perfect visual for what happened in Samson’s life. As Scripture gives us an overview of the life of Samson from his birth to his death, things start with the realization that Samson’s conception was a blessing from God as a result of his mother's prayers. His parents declared over their home that their child would be in a covenant with God upon his first breath. As part of this covenant, Samson was never to be in a relationship with a woman not of his faith. However, Samson disobeys and enters into an intimate relationship with a pagan woman named Delilah.

Pagans were the enemy of God. And, that truth quickly proves itself in Delilah’s life as she is bribed with money to help Samson’s enemies bring him to destruction. She is paid to find out where the source of Samson’s power originated. Samson misleads Delilah, playfully telling her a lie about how he can be defeated…and even though several red flags are raised...he is so overcome by lust that he can’t see them.

Lust can make us blind – and if may be so bold, stupid – because it distorts our ability to discern what is happening. That’s why people wreck their whole world for a one-night stand or lose everything they’ve worked for to get just one more hit from a drug. Lust desires a feeling that one does not presently have, and if the fire in one’s flesh becomes intense enough, one of the first things it consumes is our rationale.

I encourage you to be ready in advance for such setups from the enemy. Invite the Holy Spirit to gift you with the discerning of spirits. Because throughout your life, you are going to meet the same spirits repeatedly. Names and faces will change, but personalities will stay the same, and you need to be aware of many of these ill-intentioned personalities at hello!

A secondary element of the covenant between God and Samson also indicates that he was never to allow his hair to be cut. But after he betrayed this commitment with confession to Delilah, she had the seven locks of his hair shaved while he was asleep. When he woke up surrounded by Philistine soldiers, he wrongly anticipated that God would bail him out again. Samson thought he was above the rules. He reached a place in his spiritual journey where he evidently thought the conditions of the covenant were not required for him. He was too strong, famous, and powerful to have to abide by regulations that would have applied to anyone else in covenant with God.

What happens next is devastating:

And she said, “The Philistines are upon you, Samson!” So he awoke from his sleep and said, “I will go out as before, at other times, and shake myself free!” But he did not know that the LORD had departed from him. -Judges 16:20 (NKJV)

Those might be the saddest words in the Old Testament. To think that a man who was used so profoundly could become so distant from God that he lost any sense of God’s departing presence. So deceived was he that he didn’t even realize when God was fully removed from his life.

The enemy soldiers took him captive. He was then enslaved and mocked endlessly. They made him perform, like a jester, for their amusement.

The number one way to live a meaningless life is to become a performer. Performing for others in your career, church, home, and marriage has no meaning. Acting and performing for others is empty and done in vain. We see this all the time in modern-day Christianity. Meaning gets lost because we ignore the covenant of God. Haven’t you seen the performance-oriented, concert-style venue with a speaker offering a motivational talk with only a slight God slant? All performance, little meaning, and yet we wonder why true transformation isn’t taking place.

If you want to lead a meaningful life, you don’t just go to a small group, lead a prayer group, or throw money in a bucket to perform – it must have meaning. Your serving must come from the foundation of a powerful prayer life. Let it bubble up from a personal and intimate relationship with God.

You can not – WE can not – settle for performance.

Scripture shows Samson’s hair grows back, but he is found performing for the enemy. Why is he unable to break free? Why is he settling for just being a performer? I believe this verse answers the question.

Then the Philistines seized him, gouged out his eyes, and took him down to Gaza…they set him to grinding grain in the prison. -Judges 16:21 (NIV)

The first thing the enemy did was take out his eyes because they knew if his strength came back, it wouldn’t matter as long as he couldn’t see what he was swinging at. Solomon hath wisely shared:

Where there is no vision, the people perish… -Proverbs 29:18 (KJV)

Thankfully, Samson eventually prays the second prayer of his life and cries out to God, asking God to make the enemy pay for every day he had spent without vision:

Then Samson called to the Lord, saying, “O Lord God, remember me, I pray! Strengthen me, I pray, just this once, O God, that I may with one blow take vengeance… for my two eyes!” -Judges 16:28 (NKJV)

Maybe you lack vision, as you are distracted by life's current events. Right now, ask God to give you a vision for your family, allowing you to see the unseen and know the unknown. Ask Him for wisdom in areas where you have lacked it. Ask for a God idea, not just a good idea.

We must realize the strength that God gave us is not meant for performance; it is intended to impact the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth and push back the powers of darkness, putting the enemy in his place. God’s got something MORE for you than simply performing for the amusement and pleasure of others. Never settle for a lifestyle of hypocritical performance – that approach will only lead to a downward spiral in your life and a life without meaning.

Samson’s life reveals we must live prayerful lives, seeking God for discernment, because being a performer never leads to meaningfulness. All the while, we must have the vision to keep moving forward. Walking out these things in our own lives will lead to a meaningful life, a life well-lived:

1. Pray for the gift of the DISCERNING of spirits.

2. Refuse to settle for PERFORMANCE.

3. Never live a day without VISION.

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You Can Live a Strong and Meaningful Life

A woman called a pastor to visit the house where her father was battling a terminal illness. He goes to the house not knowing whether the man is a Christian or not, but he notices as he talks to him the man must be a Christian. Interestingly, there is an oddly placed chair sitting close by. Convinced it has meaning, he asks, "What's the chair for?'' The man replied, "Well, I'll tell you, but don’t tell my daughter; she’ll think I'm crazy…I've always had trouble praying. I knew a man in my early years who said to me, 'All you need to do is put an empty chair in front of you. Envision God sitting in that chair and that you’re getting to talk to him.’ So, I put an empty chair in the middle of the room and started talking to God as if he were sitting there, and it got so good that now I talk to him for hours at a time…and, he talks to me! But, if I tell my daughter, she'll think this disease I’m battling is also taking my mind." Upon departure, the pastor thought about the profound wisdom in such a simple act. The story of the man’s approach to prayer stuck with him. But, some months later, the man died. When the Pastor called to check on the daughter, the conversation eventually led to the question, "How did he pass?" The daughter explained, "Well, the sickness just finally got him. When I arrived, he had already passed, but we found his body in the strangest position. I discovered a chair sitting in the middle of the floor. He had pushed himself out of bed, crawled across the room, and put his head in that chair…he died kneeling with his head laid in the chair…"1

In Scripture, we find a man named Samson. Perhaps, he was the strongest man who ever lived, but unlike the elderly man in our story, he didn’t have a chair. The Spirit of God would come upon his life, equipping him with supernatural power, but his life does not end well. I think it’s because he seems to have never valued prayer. In fact, Scripture only records Samson as praying two times in his entire life. Last week’s message focused on Samson’s First Prayer, while this pass records his second prayer:

Then Samson called to the Lord, saying, “O Lord God, remember me, I pray! Strengthen me, I pray, just this once, O God, that I may with one blow take vengeance… for my two eyes!” -Judges 16:28 (NKJV)

If we can learn anything from Samson, it is that: prayer changes everything. And, if we want to live a meaningful life, we MUST be people who lead prayerful lives.

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Cynthia Lewis offers this imagery of prayer, “If your day is hemmed in with prayer, it is less likely to come unraveled.”

E.M Bounds, a great author on the subject of prayer, says, “God shapes the world by prayer. The more praying there is in the world, the better the world will be, the mightier the forces against evil…”

Elisabeth Elliot shared, “Prayer lays hold of God's plan and becomes the link between His will and its accomplishment on earth.”

Charles Stanley, the well-recognized pastor from Atlanta and of an international radio ministry, states, “An unschooled man who knows how to (prayerfully) meditate upon the Lord has learned far more than the man with the highest education; who does not know how to meditate.”

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God used him in powerful and mighty ways, but Samson failed to live a meaningful life despite being so strong because he did not prioritize prayer. Allow that to sink in.

So here is a lesson we can learn from Samson’s life: your gifts can take you where your character is not prepared to keep you. When you have a gift or some release of God’s power in your life, it’s easy to start thinking that everything is okay. But, we neglect one crucial fact, we must allow God to keep working on us, shaping and developing our character. This development happens through prayer.

Because of Samson’s prayerless life, we repeatedly see him in the wrong place, at the wrong time, with the wrong people, even though he came from a prayerful family. His parents were faith-filled, and they had an intentional prayer life. Their prayer life was meaningful! Even Samson’s birth was a blessing from God due to his mother's prayers. As a result, his parents declared over their home that their child would be in a covenant with God upon his first breath. Samson was blessed because of his parent’s prayers!

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But, unfortunately, although his parents prayed, blessed him, and entered into a covenant with God, Samson never developed his own personal relationship with God. Instead, he relied too much on his family’s faith and not on his own. Personally, he only uses prayer as a last resort – when he is already in undesirable situations and turmoil.

Each of us must have our own personal and intimate relationship with God. And, let me be clear, because this is important, just because your life looks good on the outside does not mean you are right with God.

You could simply be riding on the coattails of faith and prayers offered by someone who really cares about you (such as your parents) while the enemy lulls you to sleep and sets you up for destruction in the future. AND, unfortunately, this is what happens in Samson’s life! His demise reveals it is possible to overlook the fact that God’s power is starting to distance itself from our life, but we can avoid this disaster by asking God to ignite your prayer life and to strengthen you with His Spirit.

You need somewhere to lay your head, and as we will further evaluate on Thursday, it is not the lap – or chair – of Delilah.

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1 Story of the prayer and chair adapted from a sermon illustration by Ricky Nelms; originally delivered in his message, Hallowed Be Thy Name, 7/14/2010.

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